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am i being a dick in this situation

father and i have a distant relationship. he never calls to ...
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  01/12/18
jesus christ. swallow your pride and call your dad you selfi...
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he was a shitty father
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Irrelevant. Don't be a prick. Unless he was fucking you i...
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You can be the bigger man.
beckersted, abogado.
  01/12/18
i have been, over and over. and i will likely call him today...
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be the better man
libcrusher180
  01/12/18
get in that will.
MoreDoughHi
  01/12/18
lol no will. i give them money every month.
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then ghost them. they're your parents not the other way arou...
MoreDoughHi
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Dwyane Wade
  01/12/18
You're not being a dick unless it's life threatening. If...
Chandlers FLESHLIGHT he purchased with donated ETH
  01/12/18
not life threatening. he's fine.
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  01/12/18
Then no need to call. You're good.
Chandlers FLESHLIGHT he purchased with donated ETH
  01/12/18
eh, unless he like abused you you have to call. I'm going...
spaceporn2525
  01/12/18
ljl at family, the guilt, the distance, the alienation, ther...
sirhan sirhan's self titled debut
  01/12/18
everything i do for him, i do because of my mom. it's gonna ...
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do you have any siblings?
sirhan sirhan's self titled debut
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2 brothers
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close? what are they like with dad, maybe they can help or y...
sirhan sirhan's self titled debut
  01/12/18
none of us are close with him, but we were all parented diff...
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you're lucky to have them, just go through the motions like ...
sirhan sirhan's self titled debut
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thanks brother.
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Your failure as a son is the cause of his false as a father.
^o,o^
  01/12/18
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/20/well/family/debunking-myt...
The Man in the High Caste
  01/12/18
thank you for that
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duty is the essence of manhood and it is your duty to call y...
libcrusher180
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killa cam
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People who have great dads can't relate to you If you dad...
PrestigeWhore
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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:42 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


father and i have a distant relationship. he never calls to see how i'm doing, barely exchange a few words when we're together. hasn't ever shown a big interest in being a good dad, and i carry some residual baggage as a result. however, every time he's sick, my mom will call and update me on the situation and asks me to call him. if i'm 100% honest, i don't really care to call now that i've found out that he's stable and more or less fine (was vomiting from stomach flu, had to get an IV). my wife probably thinks i'm a dick. should i call? i'm annoyed that i get forced to care or fill in when it's convenient for him to have a son

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142310)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:42 PM
Author: ,,..,.,.,,.,,.,,,,,...,,,.,,,,,.....,.,.,..,


jesus christ. swallow your pride and call your dad you selfish fuck.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142315)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:45 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


he was a shitty father

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142336)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:47 PM
Author: ,,..,.,.,,.,,.,,,,,...,,,.,,,,,.....,.,.,..,


Irrelevant. Don't be a prick.

Unless he was fucking you in the ass as a child then you have a duty to be there for your parents as they age.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142343)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:51 PM
Author: beckersted, abogado.

You can be the bigger man.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142386)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:52 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


i have been, over and over. and i will likely call him today. i'm tired of being the bigger man while he makes no effort to change his behavior to this day. and what's worse is my mom and other family make excuses for him.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142392)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 5:13 PM
Author: libcrusher180

be the better man

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142546)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:43 PM
Author: MoreDoughHi

get in that will.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142316)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:45 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


lol no will. i give them money every month.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142334)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:46 PM
Author: MoreDoughHi

then ghost them. they're your parents not the other way around.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142341)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 9:51 PM
Author: Dwyane Wade (PlayaJ@gmail.com)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35144247)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:43 PM
Author: Chandlers FLESHLIGHT he purchased with donated ETH

You're not being a dick unless it's life threatening.

If it's life threatening, yes.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142317)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:44 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


not life threatening. he's fine.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142328)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:47 PM
Author: Chandlers FLESHLIGHT he purchased with donated ETH

Then no need to call.

You're good.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142344)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:44 PM
Author: spaceporn2525

eh, unless he like abused you you have to call.

I'm going to see my dad tonight and it can be a tedious task

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142327)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:47 PM
Author: sirhan sirhan's self titled debut

ljl at family, the guilt, the distance, the alienation, there is no solid advice but to grit your teeth and bear it, who knows you might develop the ability to tolerate or even enjoy each other, no real point dwelling on past failures

I can empathise, if anything do it for your mom

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142351)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:51 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


everything i do for him, i do because of my mom. it's gonna suck if she passes before him.

i understand not dwelling on past failures but only with family are you expected to neglect past behaviors and pretend like everything is fine indefinitely

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142387)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:53 PM
Author: sirhan sirhan's self titled debut

do you have any siblings?

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142400)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:54 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


2 brothers

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142410)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:55 PM
Author: sirhan sirhan's self titled debut

close? what are they like with dad, maybe they can help or you can work this out together

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142418)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 5:07 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


none of us are close with him, but we were all parented differently. all of us have complained about his failings as a dad. on the surface the older one has a more mature attitude than me and he does the most for him. the younger one is more blase, he'll go through the motions but ultimately doesn't care much for him. i'm the only one that actively questions the damage this relationship caused and continues to cause in my life, and i probably resent him the most. ultimately i hate faking affection when there just isn't much there.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142507)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 5:12 PM
Author: sirhan sirhan's self titled debut

you're lucky to have them, just go through the motions like you said by being there if he's ill (this is really to help your mom out think of it from her pov) holidays etc and just lean on your brothers, you don't have to fake anything, but just support your family with your presence, this is all they really want, calls are easier if you do them more often instead of going nc for months at a time

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142538)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 5:20 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


thanks brother.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142605)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:48 PM
Author: ^o,o^

Your failure as a son is the cause of his false as a father.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142363)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 4:56 PM
Author: The Man in the High Caste

https://www.nytimes.com/2017/12/20/well/family/debunking-myths-about-estrangement.html

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142424)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 5:07 PM
Author: .....,.,..,.,..,...,.,.,.,.,,,...,.,...


thank you for that

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142510)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 5:14 PM
Author: libcrusher180

duty is the essence of manhood and it is your duty to call your father you worthless manlet

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35142553)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 9:34 PM
Author: killa cam (ggtp)



(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35144186)



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Date: January 12th, 2018 10:10 PM
Author: PrestigeWhore (0xe5b500f0f5C09Ed723941758fC22eC8e00c9804C)

People who have great dads can't relate to you

If you dad sucks, then fuck it. he probably doesn't want you to call anyway. You've been forced to handle things on your own, you shouldn't feel guilty at all.

(http://www.autoadmit.com/thread.php?thread_id=3857616&forum_id=2#35144320)